Constantly getting jealous.
Fearing that he’ll cheat on you, or that he’ll fall for someone else.
Worrying that he’ll lose attraction.
Running out of things to say.
These feelings are only some of the things you have to deal with when you’re in a long distance relationship.
Your mind questions whether it’s even worth it, But your heart can’t let go.
Do you think it’s possible to “survive” a LDR? To have the relationship of your dreams – when you always worry that he is slipping away?
In my opinion, the answer is yes.
You can handle a long distance relationship with your boyfriend – with the same confidence as you would he was right here, right now.
In this post you’ll find:
1. How to stop worrying that he’ll lose attraction or cheat.
2. How to communicate and never run out of things to talk about.
3. How to keep the passion and excitement alive.
- 1 1. How to Stop Worrying that He’ll Cheat or Fall for Someone Else
- 2 2. How to Communicate in a LDR (Keep Him Longing for More)
- 3 3. How to Keep the Love and Excitement Alive
1. How to Stop Worrying that He’ll Cheat or Fall for Someone Else
Are you afraid that he’ll lose attraction? Fall for someone else? Cheat on you?
Don’t beat yourself up. It’s completely normal to feel like this in a long distance relationship.
It’s that annoying insecure little voice in your head that screams every time he tells you that he went clubbing or when he doesn’t text you back in 30 seconds.
The hard truth is that bottom line, you can’t prevent your boyfriend from falling for someone else or cheating on you.
But this is true in ALL relationships, not just long distance ones.
A guy can cheat even when he is married and living with his woman, right?
If he wants to cheat – he will cheat.
If he likes someone else – he can fall for her.
This is true no matter where he is.
Nothing drives a guy away more than insecurity, low self-esteem and jealousy.
The more confident and independent you’ll be, the less he’ll be likely to cheat on you or develop a romantic interest in someone else.
If you feel jealous, first work on your insecurities and you’ll see your jealousy disappear on its own.
2. How to Communicate in a LDR (Keep Him Longing for More)
The key to keeping your LDR alive and passionate is communicating – the right way.
Since you don’t see each other, the right communication is the only way to you’ll keep your emotional connection and your love for each other.
Here are a few great tips to remember at all times:
1. Communicate every day
Find the time to communicate with your boyfriend every day.
It doesn’t have to always be through the phone. There are many ways to talk and mixing it up a bit will keep the spark between you two and prevent boredom and routine.
Tell him or text him every day that you love him and that he is always on your mind.
If you feel that you’re running out of ways to create a conversation, here are 21 things you can talk to your boyfriend about (to make you closer than ever)
2. Texting is a Powerful Way to Communicate
While talking on the phone or on Skype is best – sometimes you (or him!) just don’t have the time for it.
Texting something funny, playful and flirty a few times a day is a great way to show him that he is on your mind and that you love him.
Send a love text message. Ask for advice. Share something funny that happened just now.
If you’re out of ideas – here are 88 fun questions to ask a guy (you’ll be surprised to find a few you’ve never asked before…)
Even better – pictures.
One picture is worth a thousand words, right?
People love pictures. And so does your boyfriend. If you’re out with your friends, or working out, or anything else – send him a picture of you.
He’ll love getting a picture of you doing your favorite Yoga pose or just having coffee with a friend (girl-friend preferably…)
3. Accept That Patience is Key
Both of you have a life. Be patient and don’t expect that he answers all your calls and texts in seconds.
Just because he hasn’t answered you right away does not mean that he has lost interest in you. And don’t listen to rumors. Trust your judgment.
Not knowing where he is or what he does all the time is not a reason to get jealous and anxious.
Be confident. Know your worth. This way you’ll stay calm and your relationship will stay calm.
4. Do Things Together
Just because you’re not physically next to each other, doesn’t mean that you can’t do things together:
Watch the same movie or read the same book and talk about it later (or during).
5. Clarify a Problem When it Arises
Do you remember that old advice – don’t go to sleep angry?
This advice is critical in a LDR.
Clarify a problem when it arises, or as soon as humanly possible (unless it’s late and you’re both too tired to think rationally).
Don’t leave a conflict hanging. End the conversation when you’re both on the same page and everything’s back to normal.
3. How to Keep the Love and Excitement Alive
Keeping the excitement and the romance alive are the hardest things about a LDR.
Sadly, memories and feelings can fade over time.
The good news is, that thanks to video chat, texts, Skype and email, it’s much easier to keep the love in a long distance relationship.
According to well-known relationship expert Bob Grant, it’s possible to grow stronger over a LDR.
Most couples in a LDR make the mistake of trying to make it work using the limited knowledge they have, only to become more lost and frustrated.
The distance between you and your boyfriend actually reveals the strengths and weaknesses in your relationship.
And with the right knowledge, you’ll have the power to control your relationship, even if you can’t control the circumstances of your separation.
(I recommend Bob Grant’s Long Distance Love Guide to find out exactly how to do that and how to use a few powerful techniques to handle your LDR in confidence and without anxiety, jealousy and fear.)
What do you think? Is love enough in a LDR? What’s the most important aspect when you’re in one?
Rooting for ya,