If you’ve never been lied to by a man, please check yourself as an exhibit in the nearest museum, because you are a rare piece of art.
If you are like me, and most women are, you’ve had the “pleasure” of being lied to (or cheated on) by at least one man in your adult life.
Why Do Men Lie to Women?
Sure, women lie to men too. But for very different reasons.
For example, a woman won’t tell a man she’s in love with him just to get in his pants. Men will.
Men seem to be better at hiding their emotions at best, and lying through their teeth at worst.
My last relationship with a man (before I married my DH), ended when I found out, months into the relationship, that he is married.
But not all lies are this dramatic. Men can lie about big things, about little things and about things that don’t seem to matter at all. And a lot of my readers just want to finally know the truth about why men lie to women.
Since I’m not a man, and I don’t have the ability to read mens’ minds (yet), I had the find the truth from a man. Not just any man, an expert-man.
I finally found the answer to this very old question in Michael Fiore’s excellent e-book – “The Secret Survey – What Men Desperately Want You to Know But Will NEVER Tell You.”
First, I think you should watch Michael Fiore’s take on this ancient question:
The 3 Reasons Why Men Don’t Tell the Truth
There are actually 3 main reasons why men lie to women. Two of them are quite innocent, but here’s the first one, that may shock you a little:
Men lie to women because men are SCARED of women.
Not physically scared. They are scared of your EMOTIONS.
Apparently emotions are harder for guys to deal with and recover from than women. According to Dr. John Gottman at the University of Washington, “women can both enter and recover from extreme emotional states a LOT faster and easier than guys can”.
If you think about it, it makes sense.
You know how you can burst into tears one moment only to be totally fine a few minutes later (admit it)?
Men are not built like that. Guys were evolved to be single-taskers.
To push everything out of their mind except that one poor animal they’re hunting. And because of that they are slower to get into an emotional state and MUCH slower to get back out of it once they get there.
Why Getting “Emotional” is Scary for Guys
My Favorite Relationship Coach claims it’s like swimming.
Getting “emotional for a woman is like jumping into a pool. You get wet, sure, but you can easily climb out of the pool and dry yourself up with your towel.
For a guy, getting emotional is like falling off a boat in the middle of the ocean with sharks swimming all around him and no land in sight.
From a young age men are taught that if they tell you the whole truth and nothing but the truth, they risk getting FLOODED with women’s emotions, which will take hours to recover from.
They will lie through their teeth to avoid this. They will do what it takes to NOT have to deal with a woman’s outburst of emotions.
This is why most men can’t deal with a crying woman, for example. No matter what you did, if you start crying – They melt and will do anything to make you stop.
2 More Reasons Why Men Lie to Women
Michael Fiore covers these other important reasons in detail in the “Secret Survey” Program, which I really recommend to you if you want to know the truths about what men want, what your man really thinks of you and why he may be so BAD at showing you that he loves you.
For me the most interesting parts in “The Secret Survey” were all about why men look at other women, what it means when he looks at another woman, why men cheat and how to “drain” a man’s desire to cheat on you, plus the unavoidable truth about a man’s sexual mind (fascinating).
The e-book is based on 600 secret survey responses from real guys, and it’s probably the last advice about men mind you’ll ever need.
I actually tried some of his advice and I have to admit I’ve received more attention from my husband in the last 24 hours than I have in the last month (Yay!)
Rooting for ya,