I’m sure you know this by now:
Even the wisest women can fail to see a breakup coming.
Is your guy about to break up with you?
Is your gut instinct right, or is it just low self esteem and fear?
This post will help you find out.
Overview
The 7 Unmistakable Breakup Signs
1. The Slow Fade Exit Strategy
Most guys don’t like to be a “bad guy” and break up with you directly. They don’t like the guilt that comes along with it, so they try to fade out gradually, hoping for a “mutual breakup”.
Is your boyfriend slowly reducing contact? Is he not calling or texting as much as he used to? These are signs that he could be pulling away from you.
If your relationship is new, he is hoping that you’ll understand the hint.
If you are together longer, he hopes that you will get pissed at him.
Both of these promote a “mutual breakup”.
2. The “I’m Busy” Strategy
This is another version of the slow fade exit strategy. He starts giving you elaborate and complicated reasons for why he’s going to be too busy to see you in the next week.
He’ll have an excuse for every moment of his free time: a doctor’s appointment, big meeting at work, helping his mom do the dishes.
If he tries to reschedule, it’s a good sign that he is really busy, but if there’s no alternate meeting in sight – he may be planning to bail.
: Is he spending more and more time with his female best friend? Here’s what to do about it
3. He Has a “Headache”
When a guy starts refusing sex, or even stops initiating, it’s a big red flag. If he says he’s too tired, don’t believe him. Most men are never that tired.
4. His Tooth Brush Disappears
If your guy’s toothbrush, or other stuff that he used to leave at our house disappears – he may be planning to disappear along with it.
Guys get very attached to their old (torn) underwear and don’t want to take a chance on losing them in case of a breakup.
5. His Friends Act Weird around You
When a guy plans to leave you, he will usually let his friends know about it way before you do.
It’s cruel, but it’s true.
If his friends seem distant, act weird and seem uncomfortable around you, they may know something that you don’t.
(Here’s how to make him regret leaving you)
6. You Can’t Seem to do Anything Right
In a miserable effort to avoid a direct breakup, guys will do anything to make you feel that you initiate the split.
Suddenly nothing you do is right, your hair is all wrong, the way you cook, the way you walk, the way you pronounce “hello” – are all reasons for a big fight.
He hopes you’ll get sick of it and pull the trigger yourself.
7. Wind of Change
When all of a sudden he starts talking about major life changes, and you are not included in them, he’s probably about to bail.
Is he planning a big career change? Moving to another country? Starting a Yoga Course in Thailand?
If he’s not inviting you to come with him, he may be planning to move on.
And now, let me know what you think:
How to Prevent Him Breaking up with You
I’m not saying this will make sense to you, but a man can break up with you EVEN if he is still very much in love with you.
If you found these signs in your relationship, and you think you’re about to get dumped, hold the tears.
And for the love of god, please don’t talk to him about it. It will only push him away further.
There are simple yet powerful ways to stop the one you love from leaving you.
You’ll learn to position yourself in a way where every time he meets or thinks of you, he experiences a strong and almost sudden surge of pleasurable feelings.
It’s not too late. Get this great advice HERE.
How many signs have you found? Let me know in the comments below. I answer everyone 🙂
Rooting for ya,
Lisa
Tabitha says
He always says he loves me very much but lately we hardly hang out together anymore. I just don’t understand
yvettebarbie says
i am keeping a long distance relationship. we’ve met twice and those time were awesome. but recently my boyfriend does not call me and only reply my message when i send one. he always say that work is hectic these days. some time i feel like am pushing myself to him or being desperate. please advice me cause i don’t know what to think again.
Ronnie says
I can relate to your feelings. My boyfriend got a new job and ever since then our contact has dropped lower and lower. I tell myself its just the way it is. Yet when he’s home its almost as though he tries to avoid texting or calling. I think that you should tell him how you feel. As if he truly loves you, then he’ll make time to console and give you any emotional support you desire. If not then you should confront him. Ask him whether he is still set on being together. Hope this helped a bit.
Erin says
Thanks. My relationship is luckily nothing like this. But I will definitely keep it in mind.. XD