Do you feel like your boyfriend doesn’t love you? that he is losing interest in your relationship – or in you?
Is there a little nagging voice inside that keeps telling you that something is off?
The good news is:
If you’re here, you’ve passed the denial phase, and you are ready to check for the signs that your boyfriend doesn’t love you.
You can’t ignore those little signs that your boyfriend shows less affection or no longer loves you.
Now’s the time to be brutally honest with yourself and face reality. It’s going to be hard but the light at the end of the dark tunnel is:
If your boyfriend loved you once, he can love you again.
- 1 7 Signs Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Love You
- 2 What to Do If He Doesn’t Love You
7 Signs Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Love You
1. He Doesn’t Know What He Wants
If your boyfriend has directly told you that he doesn’t know if he loves you, or that he “loves you but not in love with you”, or he loves you but not sure you are “the one” – it means his feelings for you have changed.
These are all (quite pathetic) attempts to tell you that he is no longer in love with you, without facing the “women drama” that all guys fear.
One of my ex boyfriends (I was so in love with him) told me that he still loves me but not sure he wants to live with me anymore and wants to try living apart (But not break up).
This was of course a load of BS, but I couldn’t handle the underlying message and stayed with him for a whole month after he moved out from our apartment.
Every day I waited for him to change his mind and come back, until a month later I told him I can’t do this anymore and broke up with him.
Obviously he did not protest…because it was exactly what he wanted.
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2. He Doesn’t Care About Your Feelings
If you notice that your boyfriend seems to not notice when you are upset anymore, or notices but ignores it – it’s a red flag.
A guy in love will recognize that his girl is in pain or distress and will at least try to bring a smile back to her face.
If you cry about something and he ignores you or worse – gets annoyed – it may mean that he is hiding his guilt feelings about losing the love for you.
3. He Blames You for Everything
If your boyfriend acts distant, ignores you, doesn’t communicate, and avoids you while accusing you of doing these exact things, he is signaling you that he wants out.
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This is because he feels a lot of guilt from falling out of love. And the easiest way to relieve this guilt is by convincing himself that the feelings are mutual and in fact, you don’t love him anymore either.
Does that make sense to you?
How relieved would you be if you stopped loving a guy but knew that he feels the same and won’t be heartbroken by it when you tell him?
That’s what’s going in his mind (probably subconsciously).
Another related sign is checking the relationship status obsessively. If your boyfriend keeps asking “are we o.k.”? (In one way or another) – nothing is o.k.
4. He Changes Priorities
If your boyfriend does one of these things:
- Gradually or suddenly starts to ignore your texts and calls (and make stupid excuses for it)
- Prefers hanging out with his friends and family (without you)
- Shows you that you are not his priority anymore
- Spends more time with his female best friend (here’s what to do when your boyfriend’s best friend is a girl)
He may have lost interest in your relationship and tried to do the “fade out” breakup.
My ex boyfriend not only found stupid excuses to avoid seeing me, calling me and answering my texts, but made sure I found out he was lying.
For example, he would tell me that he is busy at work, but then his brother would “accidentally” tell me how they went out for drinks together at that exact time.
He wanted me to know.
5. He Doesn’t Make Time for You
Couples in love make plans all the time. From little plans like going out tomorrow to big plans like moving in together someday, or having 2.4 children.
Every woman wants to feel loved.
If your boyfriend suddenly stops making plans with you or stops talking about the future he sees with you, it’s a bad sign.
My ex boyfriend made it even clearer than this. He told me that in the future he wants to live in a different country, but never mentioned anything about me coming with him. It was clear that he holds no place for us in his future.
6. He Suddenly Has Secrets
If your boyfriend suddenly starts hiding things from you, it’s a sign that he is planning to bail.
If your boyfriend suddenly doesn’t want you to see his phone (including text messages, last calls, etc.), or doesn’t want to tell you where he is going and what he is doing, the red flag should be up.
In the best-case scenario, he doesn’t love you anymore and doesn’t want to include you in his life. In the worst-case scenario, another woman has already gotten on his radar and that’s why he is being secretive.
My ex boyfriend all of a sudden started taking his phone everywhere with him, including the bathroom. He made sure I had no access to it and claimed it’s a privacy matter.
2 months after we broke up I found out that he already started going out (!) with another woman while were still together.
7. He Doesn’t Talk to You Like He Used to
If your guy gradually or suddenly stops replying to your texts and calls as he used to – it may mean that he is losing interest.
At first, he’ll have a variety of excuses but if you keep asking why – he’ll start getting irritated with you and blame you for nagging him.
One more sign has to do with deep/intimate/”mushy” conversations.
If he starts getting annoyed when you want to have a deep conversation with him, or even when you come up with more “cute names” for him – it could be a sign he is losing interest.
What to Do If He Doesn’t Love You
I’ll repeat what I’ve said in the beginning:
I know it seems hard to believe, but it’s true.
This does not have to be the end and you don’t have to sit there waiting for the ax to fall.
You CAN reverse things.
More than that, you can, with the right knowledge, make your boyfriend WAKE UP and see the beautiful, smart and loving woman he has, standing right in front of him.
Without begging, pleading, and looking desperate.
Even if you found 1001 signs your boyfriend doesn’t love you, you can still reverse it.
If he loved you once, he can love you again.
How many signs have you found? Share your story with us in the comments below.
Rooting for ya,