Can a few text messages get your ex back in your arms, holding you and wishing he never broke up with you?
Can texting make him regret his decision, remember the good times and realize he made the worst mistake of his life?
The answer is YES.
The guy you love, the guy you should be with, the guy you can’t help thinking about all day – is now the guy that got away.
But deep inside you feel this is not the end.
That this love story is nor over.
And you’re probably right.
Overview
Why Texting is the BEST Way to Get Your Ex Back
Texting is often the ONLY way you can communicate with your ex.
But here’s the best part:
Texting happens to be one of the most powerful (if not THE most) ways to get your ex back – without humiliating yourself, coming off needy and clingy, or losing your dignity.
Using texting the right way is like shooting a love-arrow in his heart.
We all know that most guys are addicted to their cell phone and never miss any text message sent to them.
Unlike calling him, messaging him or writing him an email, texting is a fool proof way to get your message across to him.
He can’t ignore it. No matter what you write to him, he WILL read it.
How to Get Your Ex Back by Text – the Right Way
Be Warned: Texting is a double-edged sword.
“Bad” Texting Will Ruin Any Chance of Getting Him Back.
But:
If you use it the right way – you can find your way back to his heart easier than you can imagine.
Use it the wrong way and you will push him further away, probably for good.
Here’s an example:
WRONG
OMG, I totally rocked it out last night with 3 drop dead gorgeous guys. Total hotties!
RIGHT
A friend and I just saw 50First Dates. Great movie. I think you’d like it…
You need a plan.
You need to plan a few specific texts that will help him slowly and gradually reconnect with you and realize you are worth fighting for.
According to relationship coach Michael Fiore:
1. The first texts should have the purpose of reopening the communication.
2. The next texts plant positive thoughts and memories in your ex’s mind so he remembers all the reasons he was with you in the first place.
3. The last ones boost your intimacy and remind your ex how amazing it felt to be close to you.
Text Your Ex Back Examples
Here are some text message examples by Michael Fiore:
Phase #1 – Reopening Communication
The idea behind this type of text is simply to open the lines of communication with your ex after you haven’t talked to him for a while. This text gives him the opportunity to start a conversation with you.
“I just came across that picture of us inside that hurricane simulator booth at the mall. Always makes me laugh. It made me think of you for the first time in a while. Hope you’re doing great”.
Phase #2 – Positive Memories
These texts are sent to make him remember of the many positive, fun and loving moments you used to share. You are actually forcing him unconsciously to “see a movie” inside his head, of the best times and closest moments you had together.
“Remember that time we jumped in that golf cart and backed it down? We were so scared…remember how we couldn’t stop laughing when we hit the bottom and realized we were safe? That look you gave me was priceless.”
Phase #3 – I’ll Be There for You
These types of texts are meant to show your ex that you are on his side and always there for him if he needs you. It works especially well if he is going through a rough time emotionally.
“I know you’re probably feeling really stressed right now with your exams coming up. But I just know you’ll do great. Just wanted you to know you were on my mind for a little…”
What to Do NEXT
Here’s why you should at least check out Michael Fiore’s guide:
The book has blueprints that allow you to send texts using your own experiences with your ex while still integrating Michael Fiore’s psychological triggers that make them so darn effective.
If you’d like to find a few more texting examples by Michael Fiore – See this video.
If you want to know more about how to get your ex back by text – See this article.
Rooting for ya,
Lisa
What do you think? Can you get your ex back just through texting?
Joey says
My ex and I broke up almost 4 years ago. We were in a long-distance relationship. As we don’t have any common friends, I do not know his relationship status or whether he’s married. I still have his contact number. I want to reconnect with him by text message. Our breakup was bad and he was under emotional stress at that time so I am not sure if he still associates negative feelings about me. I wonder what’s the appropriate text to send him so that he may open up again. Need some advice on what to say in the text message. Thanks.
Monica says
Thank you for your reply. I don’t think he’s coming back. I let him go first because like I mentioned in the previous comment, he was happy with another girl even tho it wasn’t cheating and he ignored me for weeks and his mum talked to me about how sad is the breakups. I was guilty that time. So I thought I better let him go if that will make him happy. It was so hard for me to say that I’m letting him go but actually I haven’t. I said it tho. My intention of letting him go is only for him. But he still thinks I left him in his bad times. If he had let me known about things, I wouldn’t have misunderstood things and let go. Every time I think about it, “true love doesn’t have a habit of leaving”. It really hurts. I was so stupid. I don’t know what to do anymore.
Monica says
Thanks for your reply Lisa. He said he wanted to keep in touch with me and kept texting me. So I let him do it and I was there to talk to him when he’s texting me. What pissed me off so much is when he often stopped replying to my texts after he said he wanted to keep talking to me. I don’t really know what on earth is wrong with him to disrespect me like this? It’s so unbearable and I don’t like it. I’m fine with talking to him or not. But I don’t like the fact that he’s treating me like this. What should I do if he starts texting me again and will do the same thing as he did like ignoring me all of a sudden?
Lisa Redfield says
I would try as best as I can to treat him like a friend. With your friends I’m sure you don’t monitor their response time to your texts, right?
The key is to treat him like a friend, and have no expectations from him, while moving on and focusing on your life.
Monica says
Hello. I and my Bf just broke up and it really affected both of us. He didn’t text me for three weeks while I was waiting for him then I knew that he was texting with another girl and was happy with her. I thought he wouldn’t want to stay with me anymore and I had to let him go just for his good sake and I said Im letting you go. He was so upset that I left him when he was going through some difficult times but I didn’t know that he’s been going through a lot because he didn’t tell me. It was all misunderstanding. But I feel really bad that I left him during his difficult times. Actually, it wasn’t my intention to leave. I thought letting go and leaving are different. For me, I didn’t leave him but sounds like I really did. He’s still texting with me like we used to. He’s still calling me all those sweet words. I really want him back but he’s scared that I’ll leave him again which is I never would do that ever. He said he still can’t let me go yet. He has some family issues and he’s probably going back to his country in three months. I was the reason why he’s living in my country but I ruined it I wish my mind was still and could have found a better answer to solve the situation instead of misunderstanding things. I wasn’t really hurt that time. I never left him but in real life, I let him go because I thought he didn’t want to stay and try to be with another girl but I was so wrong. Can I still hope that he’s coming back to me, please?
Lisa Redfield says
From what you’ve told me it seems that if you give him some time to overcome his fear and trust you again, you’ll get back together in no time.
Crystal Kennedy says
Does it matter if he’s an alpha Leo man? He wants to initiate contact with me.
Lisa Redfield says
That depends on what you believe. I have no knowledge about astrology.
Nancy says
Pls I need help seriously, my boyfriend broke up with me for no just cause,with the reason that he is already in a relationship before he me me,but he never told me,giving me the hope of staying with him and believing on him,but now am just powerless and really troubled,he said we should be friends but what should I do,since he is not treating me as one,with the reason that he is feeling guilty, so pl help me out friends.
Kristina says
Hello!
I have a question. My bf broke up or wanted a break but didn’t want to say it was a definite over as he told me to have faith. That we might be together again in the near future but he needed time alone to focus on this business that is his dream and somehow nothing happened with it after met.
Well after 21-30 days I wanna send my open communication txt. I will use the photo one I guess because we actually did that for NYE. When you say to use the other
txt I’m just wondering what if he doesent respond positively to the first one.. if I send him another memory post wouldn’t he just get annoyed..
Maybe is there a way to start the convo every time before you send him a txt without any hey or something first?
Lisa Redfield says
I think I would send the memory text once and see how he reacts, and than figure out the next move.
Van says
My bf broke up with me because i didnt tell my parents about him and we had a secret relationship and this made him feel pressure…i told him that things changed but he doesnt listen…he told me he wants time and live his life for now he doesnt need a relationship…i want him back..we were together 7 months he was very happ y with me but he got angry because even though he complaint i didnt do anything
Stephanie says
My husband and i have slit up and he says he doesn’t love me anymore. Weve been able to work our way back to friends but he says he only cares for me as friends. How do i get him back??? Hes my best friend and i love him more than anything.
Lisa Redfield says
If you are friends now, I think you are on the right track for getting him back. See this post which explains why: https://how-to-save-marriage.org/can-separation-save-a-marriage/
lacey says
My bf is always making comments about our sex life to his family and I don’t feel like making love anymore since I had kids I’m always tired and he is always saying that I don’t love him anymore bc I never show it but I do love him i try showing him in other ways but nothing I do is good enough I feel like I’m loosing our connection with each other
Lisa Redfield says
Lacey, this happens to most or all couples after having a first child. The man feels neglected because of the new cute adorable family member which takes all the energy you have right now.
His comments about your sex life to his family are a passive aggressive way to say how he feels, while keeping his “dignity”. It’s very common as well.
Just be yourself and stop trying to please him by doing things you don’t want to do.
Talk to him about this, and be reminded, both of you, that this is a temporary situation and it will pass.
AAB says
Hi.. This ladies comment is exactly what my husband did before he slept with someone at work. He left and has now been seeing her since he left. I feel he has got even let his emotions for his marriage out and just masking up everything. He’s now saying he hasn’t loved me for a few months.. But I don’t believe him.. As he changes it to.. Well you can’t just switch feelings off. I have been keeping my distance as people are saying their relationship will go wrong by itself but I just feel like I’m losing him further and further and that I’m becoming this distant memory. We have been together 13 years and married 2 with a one year old baby. I need some advice.
Lisa Redfield says
I know it’s extremely hard, but here’s a post that will give you some hope: https://how-to-save-marriage.org/can-separation-save-a-marriage/
Trisha says
My ex boyfriend is married. He friend requested me through fb abouta month ago. Tells me he still loves me and always will. Said he wishes he would have told me 19 years ago when we were together. Sends me all kinds of love songs. He is really sweet.I kept questioning him on…how could you still love me and love your wife too? He said he’s aloud to feel this way. We did fall in love 19 years ago, coincidentally when we were 19 years old lol. He told me from the start, he cannot be with me. Bcuhe promised his teenage daughters he wont leave them after years ago he and his wife filed for divorce but decided to stick it out for the kids. Now…my best friend is trying to tell me ….its not gonna go anywhere…so she does’nt know what the point is of him telling me he loves me. I am so confused. I still love him soooo much. We never told each other that we did when we were 19. He said he wishes he would have told me then. He was in the marines back then and had told me they were sending him away for three months. I up and left and moved back my home state without even A goodbye to him. He didnt even know i was gonna leave. But i did. And i regret it everyday of my life.. i just never knew he loved me too. But i did know back when were 19 years old, by the way he treated me. Please help me. I keep ruiningit with texts when i get upsetand tell him i just wont talk to him anymore bcuz i think he is playing games. He said, if thats what i think then he will leave me be. He said he’ll still love me…and always will. Now he wont read ny messages. I told him i wasnt serious when i said that. And that he has my hearr forever. I am so torn. We love each other so much and i am married also. Not happily at all though. We cant be together but i cannot lose him totally again…how can i make this better? He wont even read my messages!! Please help!!!!
dj45 says
I went threw something very similar..me n my first love were married..she left him n i left my husband..we got together after 25 years separation..n reunited after six months he called it quits for no reason i thought we was happy..well it’s been three months since our break up ..since then i rekindle my marriage…n we worked our problems out…i call it rebounce…i still love my first love..but saving my marriage was more important..we been married 14 years n I’m not going to drop it for a few months fling…dude probably went back to his wife no matter what he told u…
Alyssa says
this didn’t even get close to working he just thout i was obsessed with him but he did admit that he still had feelings for me but only after I asked. What else can I possibly do to get what I had with him back????? Plzzzz help me out!!!!!!
Lisa Redfield says
Alyssa,
I don’t think it didn’t work, I think that it did exactly what it was supposed to do – Make him aware that he still has feelings for you, which is exactly what happened…
Here’s another post that I think will be useful to you: https://howtogetaguytowantyou.com/make-him-regret-leaving-you/
Good luck!