Until a second ago everything was fine.
You spent every minute together.
You shared a life.
He told you that he loves you and wants only you.
What does it mean when your boyfriend wants space?
What went wrong?
Is it something you did or something you said?
Does he REALLY just wants some time alone or is he trying to break up with you?
Guys seem to get very creative when they make up excuses for “needing space”. Here are some of the most common excuses:
- “I’m stressed by my work /my life /my financial situation”
- “It’s my first serious relationship”
- “I need time to think about our relationship”
- “I’m going through a lot of changes in my life”
First thing you have to understand is that these are just excuses.
When your boyfriend asks for space, what he really wants is to love you MORE.
Men are wired differently than women.
While women tend to fall in love with a man because they are spending time with him… men actually cement their growing feelings for you in the space between spending time with you.
That old “absence makes the heart grow fonder” cliche holds some truth!
What to Do When Your Boyfriend Wants Space
If you want to save your relationship (and make it better than it ever was), It’s critical that you give him what he is asking for – right now.
Do not call him, do not text him, do not try to “accidentally” bump into him. Do not cry and get hysterical as if he has just broken up with you.
I highly recommend that you do the 60-day no contact rule (or 30 days at least) to get him back in your arms as quickly as possible.
Here’s exactly how to use the NC rule the right way.
Your actions will determine if this will be a temporary alone-time or a real breakup!
This is What Happens When You Give Him Space
He will not see you or hear from you for a few days.
His mind begins to wander to you. He might wonder what you’re doing, or wonder how your day is going.
He might even wonder who you’re with right now and a bit (or a lot) jealous that you may be with someone else.
He has the opportunity to reflect and really RECOGNIZE his feeling for you.
He starts to think of the last time he hung out with you, how much fun he had, how much he loves your laugh. And suddenly this weird thing happens… he really starts to…MISS YOU.
If you don’t give him space, this whole positive outcome will not happen. He will think you are needy and clingy and this will push him further away until he eventually breaks up with you – for good.
(Here are the 7 unmistakable breakup signs. How many can you find?)
I know it’s hard.
I know it’s scary.
I know it’s heart breaking. But you have to give him the space he wants to get back a man who loves MORE than ever.
Last Tip: How to Get Your Boyfriend to Commit
Here’s my last tip:
Learning exactly how to really win a man’s love, devotion and commitment is the only way to prevent another “I need space” type of bomb from falling on your head again.
I’m not saying you have to behave any differently, or change yourself in any way, but knowledge is power and every woman needs to know how her life partner thinks (hint: very differently than her…)
Rooting for ya,