Jealousy is probably one of the worst relationship-busters ever.
It eats you up 24/7 and whatever you do, you can’t escape the anger, suspicion and depression it makes you feel.
You and your guy are in love. He has given you no reason to think that he is cheating on you, but you still can’t stop being jealous, worried and even paranoid.
You HATE being jealous. It’s like being stabbed in the chest. But you can’t stop.
As the heart-breaking feeling of not being enough and the fear of losing him continue, you become obsessed. You seek more and more assurance, trying your best not to show what a mess you are inside.
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And him?
Though he will insist upon looking at and talking to whoever he wants, he will still try to help you. He will do everything he can to reassure you that you are the only one he wants, that he loves only you.
But he fails. And fails again. And then, little by little, he starts to pull away from you. Before you know it, your jealousy brings the opposite of what you wanted and destroys your relationship for good.
“But I Have Good Reasons to Be Jealous!”
I know you think you have very good reasons to be jealous. Maybe he keeps in touch with women he slept with in the past. Maybe he liked some half-naked woman/ex on Facebook. Maybe he hangs out with other girls (from work, or friends of friends).
Maybe he flirts with other girls or just stares and drools at ever hot girl in sight.
And you can’t help it, it drives you crazy. In less than a second you’re ready to burst into flames of anger, frustration and self-hatred – All at the same time.
But these are not the real reasons that you are jealous.
The REAL Reasons You Are Jealous
1. You’ve Been Hurt Before
Did someone hurt you before?
Unfortunately, no love comes without pain and most of us have been hurt before. You’ve probably been lied to or cheated on by someone you’ve trusted.
This type of hurt leaves scars.
No matter how much he loves you and how devoted he is to you, you can’t see it.
Your past has taken over your present. Deep down you know that this guy can hurt you just like the other guy did, and you want to protect your heart.
But if you won’t let the past stay in the past, you won’t be able to see what you have now. You won’t be able to trust and you won’t stop being jealous.
Your past has nothing to do with him.
2. Low Self Esteem
Deep down you feel that you are simply not enough. There’s no way a great guy could really love you and you don’t really deserve to be loved.
Before you dismiss it, give it a thought.
Did you become irrationally jealous in all your past relationships perhaps? Do you believe that your guy is more attractive than you? More successful?
Do you wonder sometimes why he was attracted to you in the first place?
These are all signs of jealousy caused by low self-esteem.
It has nothing to do with him.
3. He is Not Completely Committed to the Relationship
In my experience, this is the most common cause of jealousy.
Sometimes, jealousy is an instinct that something is not right. That he doesn’t really love you. That he is not fully committed to the relationship. That he is looking around, “open to suggestions” from other girls because you simply haven’t captured his heart yet.
If this is true, the worst way to win his heart for good is by jealousy.
Jealousy causes neediness. Neediness drives men away and shuts down their feelings for you.
How to Stop Being Jealous (By Making him ADDICTED to You)
Imagine really knowing that you are the only woman he can see. Imagine that he begs of you to stay his, and only his. Imagine that he starts to do anything to keep you in his arms.
You won’t be jealous anymore. You’ll feel secure in your relationship and you will know your worth.
Imagine feeling strong again. Smart again. Confident again.
You can. As a woman you have powerful forces that make a man want to commit to one incredible woman – and put them to use on YOUR man.
See the 3 simple steps HERE
Rooting for ya,
Lisa
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