The beginning of relationships are so darn confusing.
You know you really like this guy.
He is definitely courting you, being attentive and saying some of the things you crave to hear.
Is he really into you?
Is he serious about you?
Is he planning to stick around?
You want to know if he is serious about you, because you don’t want to make a fool out of yourself.
You are afraid to open your heart to someone who may only be playing, or trying to get in your pants.
In this post, you’ll find the best ways to know if he is serious about your relationship, or sees it as just a fling.
Ready? Start counting the signs. The more you find – the better the chances.
- 1 12 Surefire Signs that He is Serious about You
- 1.1 1. The Little Known Facebook Clue
- 1.2 2. Zero Competition
- 1.3 3. He Wants to Help
- 1.4 4. He Brings Chicken soup
- 1.5 5. He is Transparent
- 1.6 6. He Makes an Effort
- 1.7 7. The E Word
- 1.8 8. He Doesn’t Avoid
- 1.9 9. The Key
- 1.10 10. He Trusts You
- 1.11 11. He Makes plans
- 1.12 12. He Is Willing to Take Things Slow
12 Surefire Signs that He is Serious about You
Here are the best ways to know he is serious in courting you:
1. The Little Known Facebook Clue
No, I’m not talking about friending you on Facebook.
I’m talking about HIS friends facebooking you.
None of his friends would send a friend request to a girl that isn’t sticking around.
If you get a torrent of new facebook friend requests from his friends, it’s because they can tell he is dead serious about you.
It’s one of the best clues that he is here to stay.
2. Zero Competition
You are the only girl he is involved with. There are no other women.
If there are other girls close to him in this early phase, he’d cut them off or will be willing to once he is ready for a serious relationship.
Here’s what to do when you’re dating a guy who’s best friend is a girl.
3. He Wants to Help
He doesn’t disappear when you mention you are moving or having to do something.
If he is into you, he’ll use this chance to see you and look for ways to help you out so he can be around you.
He will try to fix that chair for you.
4. He Brings Chicken soup
One of the best signs that he serious about you is if he comes around when you are sick.
If he doesn’t mind cuddling with a sweaty ball of oozing mucus, he definitely sees a future with you.
If he makes you (or just buys you) soup and hangs around while you pile up a mountain of tissues around you – you are more than just a fling.
5. He is Transparent
If he is transparent about his routine, and what he is about to do all day, and volunteers the information, he is not just playing with you.
(Read: How get a player to commit)
You know he is in the gym in the morning and that he’ll meet you at 7 PM, and he arrives. On time. No excuses and cancellations.
If he is “missing” and doesn’t answer you call or gets back to you for a few hours, there’s always a credible explanation.
You won’t be wondering – what is he doing now? And why hasn’t he called me?
6. He Makes an Effort
He makes an effort to actually see you.
All the good morning texts and calls throughout the day don’t matter if he doesn’t put the effort to see you face to face.
No matter how busy he is, he makes it his priority to see whenever he can. No excuses, no lies or broken promises.
Of course, this won’t apply if you are in a long distance relationship.
7. The E Word
Oh, the exclusive word.
If he brings up not wanting to date anyone else, it’s one of the best signs that you are the only one on his mind, and in his heart.
You are more than enough for him.
8. He Doesn’t Avoid
He doesn’t avoid meeting your friends and your family, no matter how early is it in your relationship.
Most guys will avoid meeting your family if they’re not serious, for obvious reasons.
And this goes the other way of course:
If he introduces you to his friends, and takes to their favorite places to hang out, he is very much into you, and only you.
9. The Key
A guy won’t give a girl a key to his place unless he is ready for a serious relationship.
If he slipped you the key, he plans on you using it, and he doesn’t mind you “snooping” around when he is not home.
He is ready to be vulnerable, to be exposed, and to fully open his heart and his life to you.
You need more than that? I wouldn’t.
10. He Trusts You
He opens up about his life struggles. He values your opinion and asks for your help. This is because he knows you have his best interest at heart.
(Want more things to talk to him about? Here’s a huge list of fun questions)
He wants you to know every side of him and wants you to be his best friend.
Trust is extremely important for guys (and everyone really), and if he trusts you – he wants you.
It’s as simple as that.
11. He Makes plans
When he makes plans about the future (no matter how small these plans are) – he considers you. You are a part of his plan.
If he wants to go on a weakened vacation, he wants you to come with him.
If he plans to move, it won’t be to a place far away from you.
When he makes big decisions in his life he considers you in them. You will be included in his plans, no matter what.
12. He Is Willing to Take Things Slow
He doesn’t disappear on you if you don’t sleep with him after the first three dates.
(See why men pull away after intimacy HERE)
He sticks around even if you say you are not ready. For anything.
Even if you’re not ready for sex, or not ready to meet his parents, or not ready to hold hands in public.
He waits, because you are worth the wait. Because what are a few weeks compared to a life time he plans to spend with you.
The guy who wants to be your boyfriend is excited about you. He calls you for no reason, he makes an effort to see you.
He doesn’t make excuses, lies or breaks promises without a reliable reason.
He will offer to date you and you alone. He won’t play games.
When you are around a guy like that, everything is transparent and clear.
You won’t wonder if he’ll call you or text you.
You won’t be confused about his relationships with other girls.
If most these signs do not appear within, say, 2 months or so, you’re probably not dating your boyfriend.
That’s enough time for him to figure out if wants a real relationship with you.
If you’ve found most of these signs – congratulations.
Now you can check whether he is thinking about marrying you – HERE.
If you didn’t find most of these tell-tale signs – and you don’t want to lose Him – Find out how to make him fall for you fast – Here.
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Rooting for ya,