Could your online dating profile be keeping you guys (you’ll like)?
Definitely.
However, knowing how to write the best online dating profile – can be the best way to find “the one”.
After all:
1. Over a THIRD of the couples who got married last year met online.
2. Couples who meet online get engaged just 18.5 months after meeting, instead of the 42 months it takes everybody else.
3. Couples who meet online and get married are only 1/3 as likely to get divorced in the
first 10 years!
(These are real stats published by Statistic Brain research institute).
Instead:
You put up your online dating profile with a ton of hope and anticipation.
Secretly you hope to finally meet “the one”…only to click through your messages disappointed again and again as only the WRONG kind of guys write to you.
It’s not your fault.
You’ve been misinformed or lied to about how to write your online dating profile, that’s all.
In this post you’ll find 6 easy tips to write the best online dating profile for women – so you wake up every morning with an inbox full of amazing, age-appropriate, handsome men.
Overview
What to Write about Yourself on a Dating Site
Ready? Let’s go
Tip #1 – Focus & Be Bold
To get the right man to write to you, you need to know what you want. If you express what you want with clarity and conviction – the universe will deliver.
Be Bold!
Fortune favors the brave. Don’t be afraid to say precisely what you want.
On the other hand:
Don’t post inflexible and highly specific demands.
Instead of this:
I’m looking for a tall, red-head, handsome, vegan and gluten-free, 32-year-old guy to sweep me off my feet – and be the father of my 3 home-schooled children (named Coral and Sand)
Try this:
Show, don’t tell.
Instead of writing that you’re funny and have a great sense of humor, show it.
Choose the best, most concise example of one time you were funny, in any situation, and put it in the present tense.
For example:
When you have a bad day, I’ll dress up as Homer and tell you about the time I tried to high-five a blind person
(This is one of the best online dating profile examples I’ve found)
Tip #2 – Be Positive
There’s nothing that’ll make the man of your dreams run further away than a profile filled with a resentful, bitter, how-did-I-get-here tone.
It’s not cute. Avoid it.
Second, write what you DO want instead of ruling out what you don’t want.
Be positive and respectful.
A massive list of turn-offs will not ward off unwanted guys. It will make the right guy think that you’re a negative person who has been through too many bad dates.
Instead of:
I am NOT looking for a one night stand or an open relationship. Players and commitment-phobes are not welcome
Say this:
I believe that love comes in many forms – but monogamy is my favorite way to show it to you. How about you?
Tip #3 – Ask Questions He Can’t Resist
If you want interesting questions from fascinating guys, ask interesting questions.
Add some frisky conversation starters to your dating profile.
For example:
If you decide to write to me, I want to know: What do you do when you get bored?
Also, Do you eat food that’s been dropped on the floor?
Remember:
When a guy wants to message you, he wants to make an impression. Make it easy on him by giving him a chance to answer playful questions.
Tip #4 – Tell a Story in 200 Words or Less
One great paragraph is better than endless run-on sentences.
The way to write an online dating profile to attract the right guy is to tell a story. A short story.
All online dating profiles tend to sound the same:
“I like romantic dinners and walks on the beach”
“Are you my other half?”
Everybody is laid-back, funny and outdoorsy. If you want to stand out from the crowd, reveal your personality in a unique way.
Instead of writing “I like to try new things”, write about the one time you ate crickets in China.
Tip #5 – The Perfect Picture
I hate to be shallow in my last tip, but truth is that most guys won’t bother reading your profile if they don’t like your picture.
Your picture is like a first impression – so make it count.
Here’s an example for the wrong dating profile picture:
Here’s the deal:
You don’t have to look like Scarlet Johansson. But you do have to take the most flattering picture you can take while looking straight at the phone (or camera) and smiling a great smile.
No sunglasses please, and no deal-breaker clothes, like baggy clothes and busy patterns.
That’s all.
Here’s an example of a good picture:
By the way, profile photos that demonstrate you playing your guitar or downhill skiing – even if your face isn’t showing – get more messages.
Tip #6 – Grammar, Grammar, Grammar
Yes, I’ll say it again:
Many people find poor grammar and spelling a turn-off, and the best of us can make mistakes, so be careful on this point.
Put your profile into Word and use your computer spell check for peace of mind.
(If that doesn’t work, try meditation)
What YOUR Profile is secretly saying to Men
Now:
You won’t believe how many AMAZING men are online right now… desperately looking for you.
But they can’t find you:
Because you are making one of the mistakes listed above.
Fix them, and improve your chances.
Rooting for ya,
Lisa
John Carston says
I have yet to use an online dating service so your post has a lot of helpful info. My biggest hurdle was making an online dating profile the steps you gave will be helpful. Thanks for the dating help.